In this episode, I tackle the issue of what to do when you feel like you’re not good enough! I share with you 3 ways this manifests in your business (that’s hindering you big time) and 3 truths to embrace so you can step up powerfully and do the work your heart craves!

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Well, hello. How are you? Welcome to this episode of Tiny, Time, Big Results. I’m Yasmin Vorajee, and I teach freedom-loving solopreneurs how to turn your expertise and your experience into a profitable 20-hour-week business with the power of magnetic messaging.

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So in today’s episode, what I want to talk to you about is how do you turn this gnarly issue of you thinking that you’re not special enough. This feeling, this niggling doubt that you have within you that tells you that you’re not enough. ‘I don’t know enough, I’m not smart enough. I’m not techy enough. I’m not white enough. I’m not tall enough. I’m not slim enough. I’m not blonde enough’. Oh my God, there’s all the ways that you can think that you’re not enough, that we’re not special. This feeling that we are not enough is so insidious, and it stops so many people from actually getting out there and putting your magic out there.

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Honestly, I can’t tell you how many conversations I have with people, and they’re like, Well, I don’t really know anything. I’ll give you a classic example. My husband is phenomenal. Any time there’s any problem, whether it’s on the farm, whether it’s in the house, wherever it might be, he literally knows how to do everything. It blows my mind. And yet he sits there and he’s like, ‘Well, I don’t really know that much’.

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Really? And I see this all the time where people just completely take their genius for granted. So one of my nieces is a brilliant cook. She is so good, and she’s so good at putting things together. And I said, ‘You could do something with that. I said, It’s a real passion of yours. It’s a real talent of yours. Why don’t you do something with that?’ Her response was ‘everybody knows how to do this’.

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How many times have you said that before? Everybody knows how to do this. But you know what? Spoiler alert, they don’t. And this is what I want you to know, because you might be thinking, I think I’m all right. But this niggling doubt, this belief that you have, manifests in different ways. I I’m going to give you some examples of how this manifests.

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First of all, it stops you from putting any content out there.

You instead consume a lot of content, [obviously not this podcast, you can consume this content – this is okay]. You consume a lot of content, but you don’t create a lot of content because you think, ‘Such and such has already done it, and she does it way better or he does it way better, and they’re more slick and there’s more editing‘, etc etc etc – blah blah blah! So you won’t put your content out there because you think somebody else has already done it and they’ve done it better than you can.

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Next, you second-guess everything you do.

Constantly wavering around your pricing, your offers, your messaging, length of offers. Honestly, I’m going to tell you something just between you and me – I do it too! You second guess everything that you do because you have this belief that what you’re doing is not enough. Can you relate?

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They’re going to back out or ask for a refund

Thirdly, when you sign a client or somebody buys your course or somebody buys your program, you immediately fear that they’re they’re going to back out, they’ll want to refund or they’re going to tell everybody how rubbish you are. We’ve all done this.

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So these are some of the ways that this belief that you’re not enough manifests. You don’t put your content out there, and you blame yourself for being inconsistent. Maybe you haven’t emailed your list in a while. You give yourself a hard time for all of these things. But the underlying reason why you’re not doing it is because you feel like you’re not enough.

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Let’s talk truth…

Let’s talk about what this is really about. I love the quote from Marianne Williams, and I’m going to read it out to you, right? I’m just going to bring it up because I just think this is so powerful because I think this really encapsulates the feeling that we have.

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I’m going to read it out to you. She’ll do it way more justice than I could. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most brightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be? Brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous. Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. You’re playing small, does not serve the world”.

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I love that because I think this encapsulates what I’m sharing with you today, because I know first-hand in my 12 years of being self-employed and 12 years in corporate as well (corporate really did a number on me telling me that everything that I did was not good enough). And that has been something that I’ve struggled with over the years. And it’s really been the last couple of years where I’ve been really working on this because when we do this, it makes us shrink. It makes us play small because we think ‘I’m just not good enough’.

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And yet there are people out there who are absolutely killing it. And you’re like, I can do just as good as them. So why not me? Why not you? So here are three things I want you to know.

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1) You’ve got to become your number one fan.

Because if If you don’t do it, no one else is going to do it for you. And I’m not saying that you’re going to be arrogant. That’s not what I’m talking about. What I’m talking about is that you are going to be so full of yourself in the best possible way. Where you believe that what you’re doing is amazing. You’re creating valuable content. People are going to love this. When things flow from you, from that space of alignment, authenticity, integrity, then you are truly magnetic. I really want you to take this to heart. First of all, become your number one fan.

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2) Practise the energy of certainty.

If you have a 6-month programme, priced at $3,000 – own it! Practise that energy of certainty. Because the more certain you are, the more magnetic you are. When you wobble, your ideal client wobbles. But when you’re certain, they feel it. When your client is deciding to work with you, they might be wondering can they really do this.

This is where you have to stand really firm and tall; like a big, strong oak tree.

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3) I want you to embody the confidence of a queen in her court.

I want you to embody the confidence of a queen in her court. The Queen comes in, everyone’s looking at her, she is in control. This isn’t about being higher than anybody else or being on a pedestal. It’s about embodying the energy, the frequency and the presence of a queen. It’s like when you see a little toddler and they’ve got the little kiddy crown on and they’ve got a wand and they’re just so confident.

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You’re here for a mission. Do you know what the odds are of actually any of us being born? It’s one in 400 trillion. So it’s no accident that you are here. It’s no accident. You have a mission. You’re here to do really great things. And whether that is being the most amazing relationship coach, helping women feel amazing in their clothes (style coach). Maybe you’re helping women with their hormones. Maybe you are creating amazing videos for people.

Whatever it is that you’re called to do, there’s a reason for that. Those desires are divine, right? And I really want you to lean into it and know that everything that you’re doing is enough. You are enough. You will feel unsure at times – that’s okay. We’re all learning. I can’t tell you how much I’ve learned over the last 12 years of being in business; the courses, the programmes, the mentors, and every single bit of it adds to what I’m doing.

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I was on my walk with the dog this morning and I was thinking, I remember what I was like 12 years ago, and I cringe. But that was who I was then. When you know better, you do better. We’ve got to practise it here and now and know that you’re enough because that makes you magnetic. The words you speak and the energy that you show up with is going to make you magnetic to clients.

And that’s what I really want you to lean into. Stop telling yourself that you’re not enough. Become your number one fan, practise the energy of certainty and embody the energy of being a queen in your court.

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Your Next Step

My mission is to help you to build an amazing and profitable 20 hour week business. So you have the freedom that you deserve, the abundance that you dream of. If you want to know more, then click this link http://www.bit.ly/talktoyasmin to book a discovery call with me, or feel free to shoot me a message on social media (I’m on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram) and I can’t wait to connect with you the next time.

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Talk to you soon!